50 years collecting wisdom, 8+ books, one mission: to help couples experience Holy Matrimony as God designed it — simple, unending, and full of joy.
Our Books
Each of our books is available in Kindle format for 99 cents.
SoundBite Marriage
These short ideas trigger 4 to 6 hours of guided discussion to help couples understand how differently men and women think. Knowing this before they marry makes it less of a surprise later.
Finding Joy in Marriage: Holy Matrimony and Secular Science
Scientific and Biblical insights into how sex binds couples together — and why following God’s design brings joy. The first chapter explains ways to repair a damaged relationship. The rest of the book tells how to build a marriage of delight.
We discuss three secular books which provide scientific support for God's principles of marriage.
What Drove Jesus’ 11 Nobodies to Turn the World Upside-Down?
Jesus' message literally turned the world upside down. This is a Gospel-centered look at motivation, transformation, and how it all connects to joyful marriage. Jesus expects His people to turn our world upside down!
A discipleship manual with 150 questions to teach basic doctrines: Who is Jesus? Why did the authorities want to kill Him? Why you need an Attitude of Gratitude. It's also been used as a Sunday School curriculum.
Lessons from Biblical examples that were given "for our learning(Ro. 15:4)." It discusses what leaders and their people did to show what worked, what didn’t, and why it matters for marriage.
Hear the Voice of the Bridegroom Concerning Holy Matrimony
A call to pastors and believers to rejoice in Christ and prepare for the marriage supper of the Lamb. One chapter tells how to prepare future church leaders, another tells how to settle disputes when a large group has become angry and has forgotten why they're angry.
A comprehensive 350 page guide too big for a web page — filled with stories, Scripture, and hard-won wisdom. A grandmother who read the chapter on being a husband asked, "Do I need to read what you say about wives?" She had married daughters, they all knew what men want. "Let me put it this way, " she said. "If my husband treated me as you suggest, I would not only be willing to give him what he wants, I would be proud to meet his needs."
Weekend Marriage Seminar: Holy Matrimony and Secular Research
A weekend seminar — Friday night through Sunday — teaching couples how to build joyful, lasting marriages. Combines Biblical wisdom with scientific insights to show how God’s design for joyful marriage works in real life.
We’re happy to speak, share, or help you use these materials in your church or study group. All resources are offered freely — we only ask that you pass God's blessing on. We've emailed them all over the world and two books have been translated into Urdu. We hope that pastors and teachers will let the Holy Spirit help adapt these ideas to the needs of the people whom God has given them.
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God commanded us to form families and bring up children to serve Him (Gen. 1:28; Mal. 2:15). God loves children (Ps. 127:3) so Satan hates children. It's easy to see that Western societies have turned against families and against children. Our blog Marriage Under Threat has these books and other material relating to marriages and families.
You can download the .doc files for these and other books from this shared folder.
20 or 30 Bible verses form the core of God's rules for Holy Matrimony. God explained the reason for only one of His commands; He expects us to obey Him through faith. If He had explained His reasons, the Bible would have been far too big for hand-copying. These books explain the logic behind God's plan for marriage.
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Human Development
Our brains can be flooded with dopamine when a man and woman interact. Any interaction can trigger neurochemicals which change a couple’s brains to bind them to each other. Hooked explains that “Drugs such as cocaine and amphetamine target dopamine neurons.
. . . love, on a biochemical level, is a lot like addiction. The healthy addiction of a lifelong monogamous sexual relationship even has measurable physical benefits.”
Dopamine is the “pleasure hormone;” people badly want anything that generates dopamine. Men and women can easily become addicted to each other. Recovering from any addiction can be very hard. Being addicted to a spouse who treats you kindly helps you live longer, but an unkind spouse can cause a lot of harm. You must make sure the other person treats everyone kindly before getting emotionally connected.
“One significant but sad outcome of becoming involved in an intense romantic relationship that breaks up, especially if it has become sexual, is emotional upheaval. Men can experience these feelings, but women suffer more . . .” [emphasis added] page 58
Research has a replicability crisis: many experiments don't give the same answer when they're repeated. Hooked agrees with the Word of God. This article shows how key points from Hooked line up with the Bible.
Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student
Dr. Grossman agrees with Hooked that casual sex can damage women badly. Having treated more than 2,000 university students for depression and other emotional problems, she wrote that a woman can be very depressed when she finds that her boyfriend had no interest in her beyond sex. Most women associate sex with commitment; most men don’t.
She also explains how common sexually-transmitted diseases can make it impossible for a women to have children.
The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
The author describes women who were robbed or raped. They said they felt uneasy, but told themselves not to be silly and kept walking. His book says to pay attention when you feel that something’s wrong and discusses ways to tell which fears are real and which are not. A woman can see into a man’s heart if she looks (Judges 16:18a ). Many women ignore the gift God gave for their protection and won’t look because they’re afraid they might see something negative and have to call the relationship off . . .
